Monday, July 20, 2009

Sunday, July 19, 2009

The Lost Child In Me

Sometimes I wish I could just roam free into playgrounds and parks like a little child with no cares in the world. Their world is a world all their own where life brings no hardships, no tears, no pain, no worries but total happiness. Wouldn't the world be a much better place if we could just forever live as children?

As as a child we speak and act as children, so how profound is it to know that being like children is what God wants for us. Even as adults we may know enough, but still so little. For many adults the older we get, we become kids again or youthful, so it seems. So aren't we Gods "Children" anyway, no matter what age, race or sex? Like the movie Benjamin Buttons, born an old man and died as a baby. So its like we make a 360 degree circle with life from birth to old age. From a baby to a baby.

So what stops us from just being youthful in spirit, happy, carefree as we age? Is is the way of the world with jobs, friends, family, mortgages, car notes, layoffs, the recession? Or do we forget Gods way? Matthew 18:3 And he said: "I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.

For what we see in this world, we are forever surrounded by negativity so we become stressed, careless, unhappy, depressed, no fun to be around, etc. The only solution is to let go of our fears, trust, refocus, believe, wait for the blessings to unfold and in the meantime we must get back to our youth and learn to let go. Certain situations will make you unhappy or sad, but if we believe in a Higher Power like we say we believe, then why not become as children and remain as children. Not saying don't take things seriously as adults, but keep a youthful spirit. Love unconditionally and know that there are no boundaries. Treat everyone the same. There is only One God, One Power, One Love, One Way.

Friday, July 17, 2009

When The World Stops Caring

Does it seem that when times are good, friends are right there? Study shows that friends or people are more in the way when you don't really need them for anything. But whenever times are bad, there is really no one to talk to and no one wants to lend a listening ear.

I understand that people don't like:

Negativity in their life

To be around complainers


Tearful moments

Heartbroken people

No one care to be brought down to such a low point when they have no reason to be.

Me and the guys in the band used to always say that Positive vibes feed off of positive vibes and negative off of negative. It's like putting a new battery and an old battery in a remote control. Sure, It'll turn the channel ok, but only for a short period of time. Had it been two new batteries, then the life of the remote is much longer. A negative charge will bring down the positive faster than astronauts to the moon.

So what makes us shy away from the habits mentioned above?:

Is it because we have nothing to say

Don't know what to say

Too afraid to say what is on our minds

Try to avoid all conflict or people

Have no time

The Plus

True friends don't run away from problems nor do they judge. They lend a listening ear, encouraging words of wisdom and advice. They are strong and are doing the works of GOD. If you have someone in your life that is there for everything you go through, then consider yourself lucky. I am lucky to have 7 people including my mom to be in my life that has gone through the thick and thin with me and I with them. I've met so many people through events, shows, CHURCHES and so much more and would spend time with them, talk with them and just when I needed someone at a low point, they were gone like the leaves on a tree in the dead of winter. NEVER to be heard from again.

Did I mention CHURCH people too? Sad to say, but I was a member at 2 major churches in Atlanta, with one being in the Arts and Entertainment group with Speech from the Hip Hop group, Arrested Development.

I learned that we must seek the answers for ourselves and there are many ways to do that, but that is for another blog. After leaving that church, then I joined another and to the same effect, No One. This is not to say that churches or church people are worthless, but just not doing the works that is needed to be done as GOD-like people.


Would GOD, Buddha, Allah, or whatever your source may be, turn his back on us if we were down and out???

Then why should we be any different?

How can we know what is the Truth or what is a Lie?

Is it better to lie than to tell the truth. I think the truth always comes with a lie. Sometimes when you tell a lie, deep down there is a hidden truth to be told but when you flip the plate is truth always coming with a lie somewhere between the lines?

Signs of Deception: Body Language of Lies:

Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.

A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.

Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand

Other signs of a lie:

If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.

Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject

Final Notes:

Obviously, just because someone exhibits one or more of these signs does not make them a liar. The above behaviors should be compared to a persons base (normal) behavior whenever possible.

In a survey of 40,000 Americans, 93% admitted to lying regularly at work. Of course, for leaders, the flip side of telling the truth is hearing the truth. How can you make the right decision if you can’t get accurate information and honest opinions?

Some say that the only "rational" reason to lie is to escape "serious danger to self or others". Of course, "danger" is then expanded by definition to include everything from death, down to embarrassment and even inconvenience

Assuming The Worst

Why do we always assume the worst of things and in most cases you find it to be untrue.

Assume means to 1 a: to take up or in :receive b: to take into partnership, employment, or use2 a: to take to or upon oneself :undertake b:put on, don c: to place oneself in .

As the saying goes "Never assume, for it makes an ASS out of U and ME." -

Why do people assume the worst of things and in the end whatever we assume majority of the times tends to be completely wrong. I always found that digging deep into something without first thinking things through you will find just what you don't want to see or get what you are not ready to get.

So what makes us assume the worst of things?

  1. Insecurity
  2. Jealousy
  3. Constant lies
  4. The past, such as a cheating ex
  5. Being nosy, snooping, eavesdropping
  6. Infidelity
  7. Listening to friends/people
  8. Childhood
  9. The lack of trust

How can we know the truth without assuming? Should we just talk it out with the person first or just let it go altogether? I think that before you assume it is best to talk it out to find out what is going on. There have been times where I assume the worst and jump to conclusions and end up getting hurt in the end. Most people find themselves in the same situation. How can you regain trust from those who you have this assumption about? Should you explain yourself, give them time to heal and grow or just them go. Most of the time, trust is broken so there is no coming back. So for those who assume things or the worst in people, take it from me, just keep your mouth closed until you can actually speak with that someone or see them in action to know the truth!

In the end, you wouldn't have made an ASS out of yourself!