Thursday, March 11, 2010

Unspoken Words

A couple living together for years have changed the way things used to be and the love that was once shown so clearly to the world is a complete lost.  As one person comes from work, the other one leaves out.  They seem to be more like college roommates going in and out a revolving door, never having time to just sit and talk about what is. Conversations have now become few and far between and the lust for each other has died.  They are comfortable in a way with how things are if only they had the love they so desire for that special someone.  Too scared to leave, so they stay and deal.

So why do they stay in such an uncomfortable environment?  Would you change the situation to make it comfortable or get away from it altogether?  I think that you need to do what you are comfortable with but being comfortable and unhappy is not a good mixture.

Maybe the person is not comfortable with his or herself or know how to be alone.
Maybe its low self-esteem
Maybe its Fear of not finding someone else
Maybe its Fear of moving forward
Maybe its just to say "I'm not leaving, so you leave"

It very easy to get into a relationship, but when the relationship begin having major issues and things goes sour and you don't know what to do, then your decisions become much more difficult.  Unfortunately, most of us repeat this mistake too often and take people/things for granted.  In the back of their minds they maybe stuck in thinking about the past, wondering what went wrong, and unable to move from the pain of the relationship and to keep emotions from rising, they avoid it altogether to save for a rainy day, which may or may not come.

What will help this situation to make it better?

Talking to family and friends
Getting away from the relationship
Staying and working it out by communicating
Clearing out some clutter together to revitalize the relationship
Support groups

When a relationship experiences challenges, very often we want to put the blame on each other, so we must take 100% responsibility for the relationship---nothing more or no less.  Only when you heal and let go and let God is when you stop with the "faults” and “blames" but you must see eye to eye to get to this point!  It's very important to differentiate what has happened in the past from what is happening now.  There's a pattern that must be looked at very carefully!  I think that focusing on what you like about your partner instead of what you don't and then decide to make other choices is the key to making any heavy situation a much lighter and better situation in the end!!

Sooner or later you will actually be able to give thanks for the lessons that that person taught you.

This song represents Unspoken Words.... its called Talk To Me.....take a listen